It's so often that we wish the human race was gifted with ears that could listen.. as much as we wonder why most of us have been gifted with mouths that can jabber all day long with no complaints.....
the only thing in the world we probably listen to, without talking back to it, is music. and dads.
listeners are a rare species... those who listen to you when you Crib and Criticize, Cry and Complain, and return all of them with a sensible solution..a hope..a belief.. those who assure you with a trusting smile, and take your hand in theirs and say they believe in you and know that you can make it, even when you feel it's the end of your world...
those who empathize with your situation and shoulder your head, even when you deny the fact that you want sympathy, knowing fully well that you need it more than anything else.
listeners...come in packages called best friends, and psychiatrists. non-listeners come in packages called 'every second person you meet'
men can be listeners to girlfriends, and later, non-listeners to their wives
women...? no comments.
when you come across someone who is low in life, chances are that it's due to their loneliness. some people have the ability to put up with being alone, indulging themselves with activities other than those involving 'others'. some people just don't.
the root cause of people's loneliness, is when they cannot be heard by someone. most of them frequent phrases like "nobody understands me..'' this can almost always be taken for granted as ''nobody listens to me..'' or ''I've nobody to hear what I've to say..''
it gives great relief to a person, when you can hear them out, when you can lend not just your auditory senses, but also your attention to a few moments of what they talk, irrespective of whether they're happy, sad, manic or bored.
listening, again, doesn't mean you sit there mute.
listening is an interactive conversation, dominated by one person.. and made interactive by the listener.
attentiveness goes hand-in-hand with listening. if you're 'really listening', it can be translated as - you're paying attention. (heard that before in your classroom?)
human relationships are extremely fragile and a priority for every one of us, and life is too short to experiment everybody and find someone matching your tailored needs.
ultimately, listening is one of the main keys and an easy solution that can turn relationships into lifetime-bonds.
listening, is not a compromise.
it is the righteous, primary function of our ears.....which we cannot allow to become vestigial
